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Muffins and Mayhem, Recipes for a Happy (if disorderly) Life
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Dear Reader,
I'm not big on cliches, "Make lemonade out of lemons; what doesn't kill you will make you stronger," or the one well-meaning folks tend to offer when they're at a loss for what to say, "Out of everything bad, comes something good." When friends rattle off these trite platitudes, even though I realize they're said with love and they're desperately trying to help me feel better, instead they make me feel angry.
"Get away from me. How can you make light of something that is ripping me apart with these stupid little sayings?" is what I want to say--but I realize my friends are doing the best they can to try and comfort me.
I guess I feel the need to tell you these things, because having said all that, the most effective way for me to deal with life's pain and grief, once the flood of tears have subsided and I'm able to brush my teeth, and go about a relatively normal routine again, is to draw on my own personal cliche. "Spend time thinking about what's happened and look for something other than the horror of the thing, that I can take with me on my journey. Even one tiny, good thought will do the trick."
It's not a task I can take on immediately. At first I need to allow myself to repeat the terrible story over and over again; for some strange reason the exercise feels comforting. But eventually I decide it's time to move on and that's when I call on my cliche to help. So the next time I start replaying the story in my mind, I can interrupt it, with that one good thing.
Thanks for reading with me. It's so good to read with friends.
Suzanne Beecher
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www.muffinsandmayhem.com
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Alternating between past and present, THE BLACK STILETTO tells the story of a legendary 1950s female vigilante who now has Alzheimer's and is cared for by her grown son. It's action and adventure--but also an intimate tale of familial trust and love.
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