Dear Reader Column 02-22-10

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Dear Reader,

My husband is normally my sounding board when I have a problem, but the past few days he's been consumed with his own work problems. So I haven't wanted to bother him with mine. I miss being able to ask for his advice (and I certainly could this time), but being on my own now and then is probably a good thing. Eventually I'll come up with a solution, or my problem will mysteriously work itself out--problems always do, don't they?

No matter how deeply I care about my husband, I have to keep myself in check, because it would be easy to start taking him for granted. My husband's an easy-going guy, not a push-over at all, but frequently he plays the part of a white knight in shining armor, rescuing his damsel in distress. I need to remember that sometimes, my husband needs rescuing, too. Not in the same fashion as me. No, my husband doesn't want suggestions on how to solve his problems; what brings him comfort, is a kind and gentle listening ear. A smile and an "I love you."

My husband and I have an unbelievably wonderful marriage; we've been married 31 years. We do practically everything together, because it's more fun that way. But going emotionally solo the past couple of days has been a good thing, because now I appreciate him even more than I did before my problems showed up.

Thanks for reading with me. It's so good to read with friends.

Suzanne Beecher
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Comments

[Renee']

I love reading your dear reader column. I think I like reading it more than the book previews sometimes. It's so great that you and your husband have such a wonderful relationship. I haven't been married as long as you (ten years) but my husband and I enjoy spending a lot of time together too. It really is more fun that way. It's really cool when your husband is your friend too.