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February 14, 2007


Nancy Arensdorf

I read your story about your mother and her love Ron with tears forming in my eyes. I'm in my early forties and I have never had a "love of my life." Maybe there is hope for a middle-ager like me. Happy Valentine's Day, and keep these daily readings coming. I look forward to reading them while I eat my breakfast and start my day!

Toni Goldfarb

What a beautiful, but heart-breaking, love story! Suzanne, you are so fortunate to have shared your mother's joy, however fleeting it was, and to remember it now with Ron.
On this Valentine's Day, I feel truly fortunate to celebrate yet another year (going on 42 years already) with the wonderful love of my life, who I was amazingly lucky to meet when I was just 19 and still in college. I found "early love" but I also know of several romantic later-life marriages of women and men in their 50's and 60's (and
even a widowed friend of mine who met her new love when they were both near 70). Like your mother and Ron, these couples often appreciate each other even more, because they had waited so long for love.

If you want to read an interesting, entertaining, and also poignant book on this subject, I recommend Joan Price's recent book "Better than I Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty" and her interactive website and blog at
www.joanprice.com . Joan is a writer, exercise therapist, and dance instructor who met her over-60 love when he joined her dance class. Now married, Joan and Robert are very open in encouraging other over-60's not to give up hope, and to seek love and "ageless sexuality." (There is hope for you, Nancy--re comment above!) As Joan mentions in her book, Robert developed
cancer soon after they married. Happily, he's in remission now. Knowing how much they love each other, I can only hope his health holds longer than your mother's did, Suzanne.
Even when I skip a book segment or two, I always check your interesting and entertaining comments each day. Thanks for reading with me.

Joan Price

Wow, what a beautiful story, and thank you, Toni Goldfarb, for mentioning my book.

Yes, the love of my life and I met when I was 57 and he 64. We just got married last May, at 62 and 69. Our love is exhilarating -- we're as crazy-in-love as a couple of teenagers, but with the wonderful added richness of experience, self-knowledge, maturity, and knowing how to communicate. Later-life love rocks!

Joan Price

Author of Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty (Seal Press, 2006, http://www.joanprice.com/BetterThanExpected.htm )

Join us -- we're talking about ageless sexuality at http://www.betterthanieverexpected.blogspot.com

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