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June 17, 2005

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Evelin

Suzanne,

I am very sorry to hear/read about your loss. I find it extremally difficult to write as I don not think any words can help.
Please accept my sentiments.

Jozef Imrich

One does not create a buzz like the one you created Suzanne without putting some blood and sweat into it...

We are all survivors in a desperate need to survive longer and on a positive note.

Thanks for looking at the lighter side of life ...

'There are times when we must sink to the bottom of our misery to understand truth, just as we must descend to the bottom of a well to see the stars in broad daylight.'
- Vaclav Havel, writer, Czech Republic president (1936- )

Clea Simon

Dear Suzanne,

First and foremost, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. For what it's worth, those of us who "know" you via your site are keeping you in our thoughts.

But as for your changing life rhythms, I've got to say, I'm not surprised. Trauma, any crisis, changes us, and not always in predictable ways. My gynecologist -- a classic workaholic -- gave up her practice after 9/11, telling those of us who were long-time patients that she just needed to spend time with her kids. She's teaching now, and very happy. I started writing my first book, "Mad House," within the month of my father's death, although I didn't realize at the time that I was working on a book -- or that his death had in various ways freed and motivated me.

Nietzche wrote, "that which does not kill us makes us stronger," and as conflicted as I am about quoting him, I think on this point he was right.

You will get your strength back. Grief is horribly, terribly enervating and it takes so much longer to recover than we expect. But, yes, you'll probably keep your new life patterns. They work for you now. You've come through this with a better life, a stronger one. I trust that time will bring more blossoms your way.

Clea Simon

Dear Suzanne,

First and foremost, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. For what it's worth, those of us who "know" you via your site are keeping you in our thoughts.

But as for your changing life rhythms, I've got to say, I'm not surprised. Trauma, any crisis, changes us, and not always in predictable ways. My gynecologist -- a classic workaholic -- gave up her practice after 9/11, telling those of us who were long-time patients that she just needed to spend time with her kids. She's teaching now, and very happy. I started writing my first book, "Mad House," within the month of my father's death, although I didn't realize at the time that I was working on a book -- or that his death had in various ways freed and motivated me.

Nietzche wrote, "that which does not kill us makes us stronger," and as conflicted as I am about quoting him, I think on this point he was right.

You will get your strength back. Grief is horribly, terribly enervating and it takes so much longer to recover than we expect. But, yes, you'll probably keep your new life patterns. They work for you now. You've come through this with a better life, a stronger one. I trust that time will bring more blossoms your way.

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